The Referee

The Referee – Setting Limits to Fighting

Some fighting can be salutary. Fighting can serve the function of clearing the air and bringing suppressed problems into sharp focus. If and when people do fight, it is important to reduce the harm. That is the role of the Referee, who sets limits on fighting. Parents know this role well: “Pillows are okay, but fists are not.” “No blows above the neck or below the belt.” As Referees, we can change the way people fight, replacing destructive weapons and methods with substantially less destructive ones.   See More Roles

3rd Side Role: The Referee